What Are We Missing?

The interweb is a big and sometimes wonderful place.  You find things, other people find things and can share them with you instantly.  I find that having friends who share your interests, particularly in churchy type stuff, is at least as good as subscribing to a magazine (for you younglings, magazines were like paper versions of the internet, that you actually had to buy or have mailed to you).  Some of the sharing is funny, some of it's thought provoking, on occasion it can actually get annoying, but when it works, you really get something to chew on.  A few days ago, I got this:
A Kodak Moment
Like so many things on the web, it has an agenda, and makes a prescription, which is probably at least somewhat helpful, but ultimately leaves you with an advertisement for their church growth strategy.  To which I say, "Meh."
I agree with some of the postulations of the article, I think they have identified some of the barriers to change, and so it's worth a couple minutes to read.
The most important thing that has arisen out of this little blurb-o-blog is a question that has gripped me as the pastor of a congregation in a mainline, postmodern, American, Christian church: What is the equivalent of a digital revolution that we are missing?
I am at least a little bit uncomfortable with the notion that the only problem the church is facing is finding and embracing a new "technology,"  which is why I usually find most church growth/re-vitalization plans somewhat lacking.  They are, at the core, technological solutions: learn something new, do something different, change something about the way you're looking at the picture, change the way you're managing and/or interpreting your data.
A few years ago, I learned about the difference between technical and adaptive problems/solutions.  A technical problem is solved by invention, ingenuity and/or modification of behavior.  Technical problems usually have technical solutions: the car doesn't run because the battery is dead, therefore replace the battery, bam, no existential crisis involved.
Adaptive problems require a new vision, because there is no clear and present solution: a church is facing declining attendance and membership because?  Most often there is not a clear-cut answer.  There is a lot of speculation as to what it might be, maybe even some evidence to support a reason or several reasons, but what inevitably follows is a chain of technical solutions, rather than a concentration on a new vision.
For Kodak the adaptive problem and the technical problem were related.  They needed to embrace a vision where their primary purpose was not selling film, because film was becoming obsolete.  They were already well positioned to market photography in the digital age, but they could not see the forest for the trees.
So the question that I have is whether the relationship between God and humanity, as it has been supported and nurtured in the Christian tradition, is on the road to obsolescence.
You hear ominous signs that perhaps it is:
"I'm not being fed here."
"This style of worship just doesn't do IT for me."
"I've got better things to do with my time."
"I'm already so busy, I just don't have time for church."
And of course, everybody's favorite:
"I'm spiritual but not religious."
Churches, bless their hearts (my favorite southern phrase to express a benighted state of being), are actually trying to adapt to these conditions.  And, like someone struggling to escape from quicksand, are sinking all that much faster.  I have heard it compared, in rather entertaining fashion, to that clingy boyfriend/girlfriend who is having a hard time accepting the reality of a breakup.
It is no secret to anyone who has studied family systems, that differentiated people are more attractive.  This is true to such an extent that dissociated people, who have separated from the system to an extreme, are actually seen as romantic.  That's why the prom queen mysteriously falls for the bad boy from the wrong side of the tracks instead of the head of the debate team, or even for the alpha-male captain of the football team.  (Okay, so that's an extreme, Hollywoodish example, but it reflects a real-life phenomenon).  Differentiation is attractive, someone who knows who they are and what they're about is more attractive than someone who is needy and always seeking affirmation.
But differentiation, while it is a desirable personality attribute, must be balanced by some sort of connection.  Enmeshed families can be bad news, but so can dissociated ones.  The shining goal is a system where individuals are free to be themselves and pursue their own good, while voluntarily maintaining a healthy connection to the system.  That is the goal for healthy families and healthy churches.
In other words, we cannot cater to every little personal foible, or enable dysfunction out of codependency and misguided love.  But neither can we simply fold our arms and say, "here we stand, take it or leave it."
This is particularly difficult with the church because we are dealing with matters that people hold very dear.  For instance, we cannot simply "stop making film," because there are some people who will indeed cling to the good old days, the same way people still buy vinyl albums and antique furniture.  There is certainly an aesthetic value to religion that we underestimate at our peril.  Particularly in most established congregations, where the ones who are most invested in the way things used to be, are also the biggest supporters of the church, financially and otherwise.
I'm not shooting for an answer here, because any answer would be a technical fix to an adaptive problem.  I'm raising the question that has been on my mind: what is the "digital revolution" that the church is missing?
Can we get on board or is it too late?  Can we even really identify what it is?